Who Are You Looking For?
When considering what to include in the "Who Are You Looking For" section, take time to really consider it. This is an opportunity to reflect on what is important to you in a relationship.
Here are a few questions that you may want to ask yourself before completing this section of the profile:
- What does the person look like?
- This is often overlooked in that some have the opinion that, I'll know when I see them. While this may be true, it a good start to make a note of what features in a person you find attractive.
- Where do they live?
- Apostolic Singles Network is not a large group, so if the distance from your home is an issue, this may be something to consider. Maybe the person lives somewhere you don't but you are looking to start over with someone new in a new place. Maybe, your family is close and moving would be too much. Determine this up front, so it doesn't cause problems down the road.
- Do they attend Church regularly?
- What do they like to eat?
- If you are a meat and potatoes person and they are a vegan, that may or may not present a problem. At least consider it.
- Can they cook?
- Are they handy around the house?
- Do they need to be able to fix the porch light or install cabinets? While that may be a silly question for some, some folks find the ability to be self-sustaining with it comes to everyday household choirs appealing.
- What kind of job do they have?
- Do they have a professional career that will keep them on the road or away from home much of the time, or do that have a career that allows for more family time?
- Can they provide for the needs of the family alone or will both of you need to work?
- Are they involved in ministry and at what level?
- What do they like to do in their spare time?
- Do they have or want kids?
- Are they health conscious?
- Are they organized and compliment your nature?
- Are they social enough for your comfort?
You get the idea. The point is to take some time and write down a list of things you would like in a partner/spouse and then drill down to the must-haves.
Once you've done this very important exercise, you will have the framework to detail in paragraph form, who you are looking for.